Nollywood actress and producer, Nse Ikpe-Etim has revealed to fans that she had her womb removed years ago so that she could have a chance at living a normal life.
Nse who won the ‘Best Actress in a Drama’ award at the 2014 Africa Magic Viewers Choice Awards amongst other awards rose to prominence in 2008 for her role in ‘Reloaded’.
The 44-year-old actress engaged her fans with her life ahead of the premiere of ‘Heaven’s Hell’ which she featured in.
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In an event tagged ‘Conversation with Nse‘, she disclosed that her father died when she was 15, leaving only her mother, who was a teacher, to take on the burden of raising the family.
“My mum, a teacher, was dependent on my father for everything. And which is why today, I like it that women are breaking out and working for themselves.
So, here’s my mother at 31, nothing but money my father probably left. And so, I decided to just be that rebel and that’s when I met my husband. We started dating. I have a friend here who her parents said, see this Nse, don’t follow her” she said.
Nse and her husband had had an on and off relationship before finally getting married at a registry on Valentine’s Day in 2013.
Nse said this was even after a story about her with the headline, ‘I’m not born to be married’ was published.
Nse Ikpe-Etim who disclosed that she is never going to have a baby, revealed that she removed her womb to live a normal life after she was diagnosed three years ago with Adenomyosis (a condition whereby the inner lining of the uterus breaks through the muscle wall of the uterus).
“I was told I couldn’t have kids,” she said to the now sombre audience. “And so, I had to have a hysterectomy (removal of the uterus) to make me have a life again and to stop going through what I was going through. And I’m literarily telling women and men, it really doesn’t matter if you can’t bear children. What really matters is what you would do for the world, for the universe.”
Recalling the moment when the doctor told her she’d have to have remove her uterus to live a normal life,
“Tears dropped and then my husband squeezed my hand. It was reassuring there was someone there and it was telling me that this is reality, my reality.”
She fell into a depression.
“I didn’t think there was any point anymore because my society taught me that I have to be a mother to be appreciated and every time I went online, I would have one troll or two say ‘you never born? But I’m thankful that that didn’t break me.”
“I wanted a set of twins,” she said boisterously. “I wanted children. I wanted so badly I was brooding forever. Femi, I did IVF. I tried. Femi, I did everything our society wants every woman to do so that we can be accepted as women.”
She however described as “crazy” how some media reports speculated on her being pregnant.
“If I registered a foundation, I would look into women like me who are questioning that they are no longer women because they can’t bear children, women who are marginalised because they suffer one way or the other,” she said.
“There’s so much that we go through that nobody sees but yet we smile. I’m not saying men don’t go through it. Men have to struggle because there’s so much pressure on the man.”