Social media has been set abuzz as ex-girlfriend to BBNaija S7 ex-housemate Sheggz Olusemo, Gbemisola Bemi Akinde has narrated the abusive relationship they had.
Bemi who is a YouTube content creator, spoke out after weeks of speculation as she’d spoken about an abusive ex in the past but hadn’t mentioned his name.
She narrated how her leg had gotten broken while she’d been running from him and how he’d call her names and try to isolate her.
Bemi noted that Sheggz has said all the same things he said to her, to his new girlfriend Bella and implied that he was manipulative.
Read her full account below:
I’ve kept quiet all this while because I thought this will all just die down. I’ve moved on with my life; I’m at peace and in a better place mentally.
However, one thing I will not allow is to have you people bully me or try to come for my bag.
You have called me all sorts of names; sent death threats and rained numerous curses on me. Over a situation that is true & 100% facts. I have nothing to do with the video resurfacing and the unwarranted harassment is still ongoing.
We dated on & off between 2019-2021. During the relationship he was mentally & verbally abusive, Narcissistic, very manipulative, overbearing and the list goes on. The video circulating was posted in November 2020 after my leg injury, when we had broken up.
If you have watched the video, not once did I mention that segun pushed me down the stairs, I was running from him as he was chasing after me; from the fear of what he might to do me, I was scared & running fast, that’s when I missed a step and fell down 7 flights of stairs, this resulted in my leg getting broken.
We then unfortunately reconciled at the start of 2021 so I took the video down. If the video I made was all a lie, why would he get back with me?
When we got back together, things were good at the start before they turned bad again.
I was optimistic, thinking after everything that happened in the past that there was hope of him changing and things being different this time around. Yes, I still loved him (Naive and stupid I know lol).
He would talk down on me & make certain statements such as “you’ve ruined my life. Why would you make that video? You’re a witch…” dealing with this was horrible because here I was trying to leave all the negativity in the past and start afresh when I got back together with him but no, it was like he wanted revenge for me posting & speaking my truth.
We had to talk about the past and he would always bring up the video to the point I had to ask him “did you get back with me so I can clear your name? Are you expecting me to sit down and make another video because that is not happening?”
He knew what he was doing. Segun is overly calculated & tactical. I’ll give him that.
The second relationship was not as bad as the first but was still very much toxic, I believe this was due to the guilt of my leg.
We argued A LOT which became exhausting and draining. He was still verbally abusive, manipulative and insecure. Always accused me of speaking to guys on my socials and he wanted me with him 24/7 and anytime I reacted to things he would say he would tell me he can’t marry me because of how I react to what he says lol. I’m not saying I’m perfect because I’m definitely not.
But I 100% gave all I could to that relationship from hell. I was told I wasn’t patient enough, I was temperamental, I was hood, I was disrespectful, I didn’t fit his criteria , lol so I started to look within myself and said okay let’s try things differently. I tried to be calmer during arguments but things always escalated because of him therefore I knew I wasn’t the problem. To my friends who questioned me as to why I got back with him. I made everything seem perfect, defended him and tried to prove to them that I made the right choice by getting back with him and that he was not the same person he was in the first relationship.
He would do some sweet gestures here and there which made our relationship look “better” than the previous (bring me around his friends, buy me flowers, stay on the phone for hours idolising me to his friends) but all of this didn’t mean shit to me cause the abuse was still going on behind close doors, it was just well hidden. The friends that knew me well enough knew I wasn’t myself, I became timid and a whole different person -changing into his “ideal” woman.
He became possessive and overbearing and I had no breathing space. He was with me 24/7 unless he had to go for training for his fake football career.
I would ask for space as he basically moved in with me and he would turn around and compare our relationship to other people’s trying to gaslight me. He would tell me I don’t know what it means to be in a serious relationship and tell me “do other couples not live together “lol.
It was toxic.
I’m not going to go into details as to what transpired between us and what didn’t.
Everything Segun does is for his own selfish interest and I am thankful to be free from that relationship from hell you have no idea! I feel liberated
Nothing or no one can bring me down. I broke up with him officially in November 2021 and he was still trying different tactics to get back with me during his stay in Nigeria between December 2021 – March 2022.
He even went as far as to buying my mum a ticket to Dubai for her birthday in March, which I wish she hadn’t accepted.
When he realised that nothing was changing my mind about getting back with him, he said I didn’t appreciate him & his efforts lol, as things weren’t going his way.
Now let’s fast forward to BBNAIJA 2022 It was my birthday at the start of July 2022 and I went to Cancun to celebrate. When I got back, I stupidly sent him a message as I was in a vulnerable state, because I was still healing and still healing from the situation. Segun later called me and kept apologising for everything and even tried to impose that we should get back together.
I said no way, that could never happen. Too much has happened for one, I was finding peace and no amount of begging can jeopardise that. This is where it gets interesting. He goes ahead to tell me he’s going on BBN and that his family and friends told him not to tell me.
I was confused because I didn’t get it at the time. I proceeded to wished him good luck and told him to be himself. People are either going to love or hate you but regardless just be yourself. Those were my last words to him.
The next day he goes on BBN and in less than an hour of him being in the house, a reaction video to the video I made in 2020 starts circulating all over social media.
I was even getting annoyed for him, thinking can people just let this be and judge him based on the show and not this video, as we all deserve a second chance and we all make mistakes. I then realised this was all a strategy, because how has he gone in the house and within an hour this video is EVERYWHERE and I’m being tagged left right centre and my phone is going off non-stop. Not even a day or 2 maybe even 3…But an hour? Come on.
I watched the show when it first started and I was disgusted and I couldn’t rate what I was seeing because it was clear to me he went on there to try change the narrative. He was clearly given a script to go by hence why his family and friends must have told him not to tell me he was going on there lol (awon werey).
Segun has gone into the BBN house with no outside communication or phone, suddenly he knew a video about him linked to abuse would surface, how did he know that there could be a video circulating about him? When he knew the original video has been taken down since 2021 when we got back together… because of course someone from his camp got it circulating again.
Also what does an abusive man look like? Since he said he “fits” the profile with tattoos and piercings. Is he the first to have tattoos and piercings? lol boy bye.
I’ll tell you this too. EVERYTHING Segun was saying to Bella, is everything he’s also said to me. I don’t know if he has a book where he writes all these things but he has definitely mastered the art of love bombing and manipulating women. He says things a woman would want to hear. It was almost like I was watching myself through her based on everything he was saying to her.
All I’m gonna say is anyone who has common sense would be able to see segun live and direct for who he is, from watching the show, irrespective of my video.
Anyways, I don’t care for this situation any longer. Please with all due respect stop messaging me about it. I’m not going to reply. This is the one and only time I’ll be addressing anything regarding this. I’m done and I’ve been done. Good luck to him and his future ✌🏾
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Here is a video of Bemi saying she was running away from him this is exactly what she said in her tweet but you’ll are claiming her video and her tweet aren’t the same I’m tired of Bbn Stan #BBNaijaS7 #Bbnaija pic.twitter.com/nhuxWQwbhk
— Timmie💙🕊️ (@TimilehinDebbie) September 30, 2022
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